![]() Before you know it, they’re saying you have so much in common, therefore you must be soul mates.”- Dale Archer, M.D., Why Love-Bombing In A Relationship Is So Devious 3. Masquerading as ‘good listeners,’ the bomber gathers intel on your likes, dislikes, insecurities, hopes, and dreams. “Manipulative love bombers don’t just walk up and say: ‘We belong together.’ They have to give you evidence that it’s true. By doing this, you communicate an important boundary to those around you: trust has to be built organically and cannot be earned blindly. It’s a good rule to have regarding anyone, regardless of whether or not they’re toxic, because it allows intimacy to unfold naturally at its own pace. Be selective about who you allow into your online spaces and make your privacy a top priority. Solution? Don’t give them much access in the first place. It is also valuable for the devaluation stage, as it allows them to assess whether you’d be a viable target for their pity ploys and mind games. These investigative digs are crucial for the narcissist’s love-bombing stage, where they are first pursuing you with ardent fervor and need to unearth your vulnerabilities to do so. Remember, it’s possible for even a complete stranger to find out your life story should they do the due diligence of looking through your photos, your tagged posts, even your ‘About Me’ section. Having access to your social media accounts can give them an easy way to find out more about your likes, interests, hobbies, and desires. They want to know anything and everything about you, so that they can later use your wounds against you. Imagine that narcissists are like trained spies in the figurative Trojan horses that are social media accounts. Narcissistic partners can flirt with numerous people by sending them messages on Facebook, inappropriately commenting on their photos with sexual or obscene messages for all to see, ‘following’ a number of shady accounts, as well as posting photos of themselves with exes, crushes, and people with whom they’re having affairs, all under the guise of them being ‘friends.’ Should their victims ever call them out on their strange behavior, the narcissist will then gaslight the victim into thinking he or she is going crazy. They trespass the boundaries of their relationships frequently and with malice, with the intention of skirting accountability and with callous disregard for the feelings of their victims. They enjoy seeing their reactions to their despicable behavior. ![]() However, true, full-fledged narcissists create love triangles deliberately in order to provoke their significant others. Now, it’s certainly possible for someone lower on the spectrum of toxicity to aggravate their partners with their lack of discretion and loyalty without meaning to sometimes garden-variety jerks or cheaters are not even fully cognizant they could be caught. – Megha Mohan, Cheating and manipulation: Confessions of a gaslighter But they would build over time, and she then started to believe.” She was ‘paranoid’, she was ‘crazy’, she was ‘full of drama’. “I deliberately used demeaning language to make her lose confidence in her reading of the situation, of my infidelity. He said he made jokes over a period of time pointing to her ‘obsession’ with social media, making her feel that she was suspicious in an unhealthy, even ‘crazy’ way. ![]() ![]() “Paula was extremely intelligent, but I was aware that I was leaving traces of infidelity in the digital world, on social media,” says Greg. They will, of course, deny that they are doing this – and it’s easy to convince anyone who is suspicious of their behavior that such a focus on their online behavior is “crazy.”įor example, observe what a self-confessed gaslighter told BBC news when asked about the role his gaslighting played in covering his tracks on social media: In order to understand how and exactly why narcissists use these platforms for such petty power plays, it’s essential that we remember that they tend to be insatiable in their attention-seeking and their desire to create harems of people who adore them. It gives them easy access to multiple victims and the ability to manufacture love triangles in covert, insidious ways. Social media is a veritable playground for malignant narcissists. Here are five ways malignant narcissists – those without empathy and with an excessive sense of entitlement – use social media to exploit, manipulate and destroy their victims: 1. Social media has just given them an extra tool to terrorize people. Social media has been blamed for breeding narcissists, but the fact of the matter is, narcissists have always existed. By Shahida Arabi Updated January 28, 2022 ![]()
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![]() ![]() This time has clear trade-offs – time spent in radiation oncology is time not spent in other fields. The consequence of these choices is that applicants can spend close to 25% of their medical school’s elective clinical rotations in radiation oncology prior to spending 3–4 years pursuing dedicated training in the field. Applicants often feel significant pressure to rotate at multiple programs with the goal of improving their chances for a successful match. One potential interpretation of these data is that applicants should consider focusing their 4 th year elective time on rotations that will provide them valuable medical experiences outside of radiation oncology. This also means that nearly half of applicants matched to a program where they did not perform a rotation. More than half of matched applicants did an elective rotation at the program they matched into suggesting that these rotations help some applicants secure their residency positions. ![]() These data provide an interesting view of the importance of elective rotations. Just over 50% of matched applicants rotated at the program they matched into (24% at home institution, 28% as away elective, Figure 1).Īpplicants’ elective rotation participation relative to their matched programsĪpplicants are often told that they have a better chance of matching into a program at which they have done an away rotation. The most common number of radiation oncology elective rotations (including one in their home institution) completed was 3 (range: 0–5 mean: 2.8, SD = 0.8). Students whose home institution was not in the mainland U.S. This analysis was deemed not-human subjects research by the University Health Sciences Institutional Review Board.Īfter the residency match for three respective years, 531 students revealed their matched programs, their home institution, and whether they did an away elective at the matched program. We assumed the good faith of radiation oncology applicants helping fellow applicants. A limitation of this analysis is that applicants input data which should be accepted with caution. We analyzed an open-access, self-reported database in “RadOnc Interview Spreadsheet” for the 2015, 2016, and 2017 radiation oncology match, accessed in J– available in Student Doctor Network (SDN ), an online forum for medical students. We hypothesized that participation in an elective rotation is associated with the applicants eventually matching into that program. To date, there is no data documenting the value of away rotations with regard to matching. Participation in elective rotations is seen not only as a method for gaining valuable information about potential programs, but also as a way of improving their probability of matching by “auditioning” with a program. Radiation oncology residency applicants invest considerable effort to improve their chances of a successful match. ![]() ![]() A few years back I picked up a compilation and I also loved watching the Lemmy documentary. I loved rocking out to them back then but I will admit I didn’t listen to them much after the 80s. ![]() Being a “youthful” 46 I remember getting into Motorhead a bit in my awesome 80s headbanging days. This album’s a time capsule of rock and roll and definitely an important piece in the history of the form. While I likely won’t come back to this album super often, I have a profound respect for Motorhead sticking to their guns, playing and living authentically, and giving us Ace of Spades. Lemmy estimated he’d slept with more than 2,000 women and one must wonder how autobiographical Jailbait is? There’s no doubt a bit of jest involved, but this track likely reveals a layer of reality to living the Motorhead lifestyle that ‘The Law’ wouldn’t approve of. Fantastically honestly and it paints a wonderfully loud picture of life on the road. There’s no doubt this tells the true story of Motorhead and their crew. (We Are) The Roadcrew is my favorite track on the album and does an awesome job of telling the story of a rock and roll band. Fast and Loose also has some pretty nice guitar riffs and is classic foot-stomping rock. Shoot You in the Back features great underlining guitar licks that could power a dance floor at any rock club. You can definitely hear how Motorhead informed the sound of so many other bands, many who achieved greater fame and popularity than Motorhead, but they definitely laid the tracks for a generation of hard rockers to come. Except somehow you believe Motorhead meant and lived it a lot more than AC/DC. There are surprisingly strong parallels with AC/DC in the messages and themes on Ace of Spades, mostly consisting of tales about partying, drinking, women, and the rock n’ roll lifestyle. Authenticity oozes on every track of Ace of Spades. They look the look, talk the talk, deliver the goods, and there’s no doubt rock and roll was everything to them, 24-hours per day, 365 days a year. Motorhead is perhaps one of the most authentic rock bands I’ve encountered. Our Full ReviewsĪuthenticity is powerful and hard to find. All ratings are out of 5.ĭon’t agree with us? Have a comment or suggestions? We’d love to hear from you. We have also implemented a rating scale that you will see below in the reviews. Cool lifestyle to read about but you wouldn’t want to live that way.Ok, it can be a little vulgar and Jalibait is a bit disturbing of a subject.You can’t help but get energized when listening.It totally rocks and is a very authentic album.Leave a comment about your thoughts on this album. As always, we’d love to hear your opinion. Please read the reviews this month in honour of Lemmy. Though we differed greatly on this album on our opinions nobody could doubt that this band can get you pumped up. ![]() Also, pour a beautiful Jack Daniels (Mmmm….JD….). Do you really need to read much more than that? Not really, you should go listen now and crank his songs while you read this review of their iconic album. Here are all of Ace of Spades’ songs ranked.Please read Scott Coates selection article of Motörhead: Ace of Spades before reading our reviews below. In 2020, it was ranked at 408 on Rolling Stone’s 500 Greatest Albums of All Time list. The album is listed in the book 1001 Albums You Must Hear Before You Die. The title track is, for many, the definitive Motörhead anthem. Despite the band always referring to their music as rock ‘n’ roll, the album, and particularly its title track, have been considered amongst the most influential in the development of thrash metal. In 2020, the album was ranked at 408 on Rolling Stone’s 500 Greatest Albums of All Time list. It was the band’s debut release in the United States, with Mercury Records handling distribution in North America. It was preceded by the release of the title track as a single on 27 October, which peaked in the UK Singles Chart at No. It is the band’s most commercially successful album, peaking at number four on the UK Albums Chart and reaching gold status in the UK by March 1981. Ace of Spades is the fourth studio album by British rock band Motörhead, released on 8 November 1980 via Bronze Records. ![]() |
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